I am one who is deeply ingrained in the life of social media. I even created a major and earned a degree in media, and built a career specializing in social media. From Facebook to Snapchat, I cover all the social media bases. What is becoming more and more apparent is the facade that social media creates. No longer does one have to make an effort to find tangible relationships because relationships are now entirely virtual. Individuals can be whom ever they want to be behind the mask of social media. A timid girl from the mid-west can be the exciting New Yorker with oodles of friends. You can become the “IT” girl, the cyber geek or the animal lover with a click of a button. You can display your thoughts, feelings, concerns, relationships, friends, likes, dislikes to millions in nanoseconds. What seems to be disappearing is real connection.
I love scrolling through the real-world happenings of individual’s daily lives. I can stay constantly updated on lives of those I do not regularly see. I feel connected to friends and family thousands of miles away. But taking out the family and friends connection piece, social media has become the public display of our everyday lives, carefully orchestrated to inspire the raise of a finger to gain an instant like. Our lives are determined by instant gratification of a like or a comment. Personally, when I wear a killer outfit, I want everyone to see it. It took me hours to apply my flawless makeup and match the perfect heels with my cocktail dress; I would like it to be admired by all. When I’m not immediately bombarded by Instagram notifications, I feel rejection. This is what we have come to.
Instant seems to be the term of the century. The mask of social media is the segue for gratification. The filters chosen, the angles taken and the image captured is an instant glimpse into the life one wants portrayed. Even a rainy day can appear cloudless with the right filter. Using social media to create the storybook of your life is a good way to keep people in the loop. Using it to be someone you are not is like destroying a unique piece of art. Once the image is tarnished, it is very difficult to get it back. Be who you are, not what you think you should be. More to come… xo